I love Cheese! I love You!

Our language has become so interchangeable. We are able to say often with the same intensity: ” I love you”, “I love cheese”. The Greeks differentiate between 6 types of Love:  Eros, Ludos, Storge, Pragma, Mania and Agape. Knowing that there are intensities of Love.

What are we truly saying when we say I Love you. In times where it is now becoming harder to hide the truth and more and more a light is shining on the Truth of who we are and our intentions. So if we have an agenda, if we are playing a game- it will come out- be seen- be revealed.

Often when we say I Love you what we are saying is I Love the way you make me feel. After all isnt that what we mean when we say with passion I love Cheese! Are we truly in love with all the components of Cheese or how it makes us feel?

So if we Love someone down to how they make us feel- what kind of a Love is that? If we Love to fill a yearning, to feel better about ourselves, to fill a void in our lives, to look good in front of others, to possess, to own, to feel- that is not the Truth of Love. That is not the Love that changed generations, that healed and brought miracles to Earth. The Love that has been and is so powerful that it has the capacity to change anything for the better. That is a diversion from the essence of its Truth.

If we Love someone what do we Love? Personally I believe we Love the Truth of who they are- their Soul, their Essence, their Unique-ness. That is how we know that what we Love cannot be replicated, cannot be confused. I Love you- means I Love and Honour the Truth of you and in so doing know that there is no other like you. And to do that requires us to truly understand and know the essence of someone. That can happen in an instant, that can take much longer..

If I Love you means I want sex, I want to be near you because then I feel better, I need you to inspire me, I need you…That is not Love. That is a need- that is an indication that somewhere in your life Love is missing. No person holds the key to our life- only we do. And Spirit.

And Lust and Love are not the same. Sex without Love is just an act- devoid of the very essence that makes it a gateway to the Divine Love and the Essence of all that is. Love can exist without sex and not lack meaning- it takes on another dimension. Becomes another form of Love. Sex without Love lacks the Divine and the Sacred.

I have never told someone I Love them lightly. It has been to do with an essence of them that I have grown to Love. It could be their energetic imprint, their physical traits- as in personality, their passion for life, their creativity, humility, humour. It is always to do with the essence of  them- the Truth of them- of what makes them – them.

I Love you because you turn me on, because you make me laugh, because you bring me gifts, you make me feel younger, more beautiful. More something. In Truth no one makes us feel anything- we feel. And often what we are yearning to feel we are yearning someone to help us feel- believing we cannot be that in ourselves. Looking for validation elsewhere. When the fact is Love has never left us. It is with us every time we choose to connect with it, with Spirit, with ourSelves in Truth.

Loving the essence of someone then automatically requires we honour and respect that essence. For if we Love it how can it not be honoured. And so then there are no mixed messages, no words say one and action does another. For when the words are authentic the actions shall match.

Being mindful with our words means just that. Asking am I resonating from a place of Truth with these words. So the next time we say I Love….let us ask what do we really mean. Do we Love the essence of that thing or person, or do we mean we Love how they/it make us feel. And the latter is okay. As long as we are truthful about that. I Love how you make me feel is at least a start in recognising that what we Love is more tied up with how we are feeling and what we need to feel than the object we protest we Love. And so we then start to make steps to being authentic with 3 of the most profound words ever spoken in a lifetime: I Love You.